When you’re not being true to yourself
I realised recently that I was continuing with projects and activities that weren’t serving me not because I wanted to, but because I thought I was supposed to. Other writers said blogging twice a week worked for them, so I should be doing it too. Internet gurus said I should be posting on Instagram to a strict schedule and making my feed colour-coordinated and beautiful, and who am I to argue with people with tens of thousands of followers? And so on.
“The life I was living just didn’t match who I was,” Georgie said of her previous job. Since quitting and setting up her own business, she is happier and healthier than she ever imagined. The message is clear: stop doing what others expect, and be true to yourself instead.
When it has no tangible benefits
Does the thing you want to quit doing make you money, get you closer to your goals, bring you joy, or serve others in a way that is meaningful to you? If it doesn’t do any of these things, then why are you doing it?
Having no good reason to keep doing something is a great reason to stop doing it.
When your goals have changed
Very few of us have the same goals and ambitions throughout our life (case in point: I have, at various times, wanted to be a vet, a teacher, an actor, and a competitive horse rider before I settled on being a writer.)
Goals change for many reasons. Money, major life events like getting married or having a child, and simply undergoing a change of interests as you get older are all very normal reasons.
If you’re doing something in service of a goal you no longer have, or even one that you feel half hearted about, ask yourself why. There’s no shame in discovering that your goals and priorities have changed, and giving up things that no longer serve you to make room for things that do.
It’s a cliche, but a true one, that everything is a learning experience! Regardless of the factors that led you to do it, try not to see quitting as a failure. Instead, see it as a chance to pause, take a breath, and learn from what went happened. Knowledge and experience is never wasted, and will always stand you in good stead for whatever you want to do next.
Have you quit a job, business, project, or activity and found yourself happier and healthier for it? Let us know – we’d love to hear your story!